We all have bad days, slumps, moods we can't seem to jump out of as quickly as we'd like to. But there are a few things we can do to start cheering ourselves up right away!
Here are my top 7 >>
1. 5 song playlist that truly speaks to your soul
Go through your Spotify, itunes, Pandora favorites and pick FIVE SONGS that feel like your soul played as music when you listen to it. Only five to start, I don't want this to take you very long and I want you to really focus on the music matching your SOUL. Who you really are, not the mood you are currently in. Look for songs that aren't going to try and force you to feel happy if you're feeling angry and certainly do not play that angry song if you're angry- I know you want to but don't do it. If you MUST listen to the angry song, you get one play, that's it, no repeat. Then move on to the soul songs. One of my song's is Lindsey Stirling "Spontaneous Me" when I listen to it, I feel like she wrote it just for me.
Once you start feeling more normal, then put on your happy, fun, dancing music!
2. Design your desk
You probably have a workspace somewhere, right? Even if it is at home, a shared office, your car etc. It is still YOUR space where you probably deal with a lot of decision making, maybe even some chaos and probably a bit of hard work. It is crucial that this space has some decor or display that bring you joy.
Does that mean a cute little succulent? Or absolutely no clutter? A matching desk set?
I have an oil diffuser on my desk and I LOVE it! It is so soothing for me. I love the glow of the lights, the cinnamon scent I put in there and I feel much better about the quality of air I am breathing in. And the compliments I get when people walk in are wonderful, they love the smell too, but it's really about me ;)
Maybe you need a little bit of retail therapy, and I stress the word little, don't go overboard here, you don't want to waste money but little splurges on ourselves are absolutely necessary.
Do you shop online? I certainly do, WAYYY too much :D And something that makes everyone feel better, is making money. So if you're spending it, you might as well be making some back, right? I'd be surprised if you're not using this site already but if not, you really need to know about it.
It's completely FREE, they give you $10 (sent straight to your paypal account) for no reason, which is amazing and it is just a plug-in a the top of your screen by the URL bar.
It automatically pops up and tells you when a website has a cash back offer, literally paying you to shop. I use this every time I buy on Target, Amazon, Ebay, Ulta, Expedia and so many more, I love it!!
4. Quick Meditation
If you're feeling stressed, you probably need a quick relief right away. A great go-to meditation practice is a breathing body scan.
Find a private place, maybe your closet or your car? Sit comfortably and take a deep inhale through your nose, count to two in your head, hold the breath for two counts and exhale verbally making an "ahh" sound for two counts.
Now continue this while putting your mental focus on the top of your head, do the breath. Then take your thought to your jaw and repeat the breath. Bring your focus down to your shoulders and repeat the breath.
Continue this all the way down to your ankles, stopping at as many body parts as it takes to start feeling that beautiful wave of calm encompass you.
This is a great practice to become familiar with because it doesn't require any guided assistance, doesn't take much time and it is highly effective.
5. Affirmation list and maybe a SnapChat filter
I absolutely believe in affirmations, particularly stating them outloud. There is power in our voice and declaring something verbally to the universe. I used to make my corrections clients (adult, male felons) walk around with affirmations written down on a paper in their wallet and they had to take it out any time they felt discouraged, if they're willing to do it, so can you!
An example affirmation list might look something like: Say these outloud now!
I can. I will. End of story.
I feed my spirit. I train my body. I focus my mind. It’s my time.
I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness.
I deserve the best and I accept the best now.
I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy.
My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions.
I am enough. I am intelligent, beautiful, strong, capable.
I accept abundance and success and embrace joy into my life now.
Write yours out on a piece of paper or put it somewhere electronically or posted on your mirror and read these, everyday, over and over again. And say them out loud, you will feel the difference.
And sometimes we just really need an awesome SnapChat filter to affirm us immediately. See above pic :D
6. Write it out, don't talk it out - most of the time
Sometimes venting to your sister, mom, girlfriend, random stranger feels great and is the right thing to do; however, I urge you to proceed with caution when it comes to verbally venting to another person.
The obvious reason is about airing your "dirty laundry" is not a beneficial thing. Having your mom hear about your fight with your husband will only hurt their relationship, complaining about work to a co-worker might come around to bite you in the butt.
Another reason is because sharing negative energy and words to another person now puts the weight of that negativity on them as well and that's really not fair to bring them down with you.
Of course there are exceptions to this, if you're going through something heavy or intense, please share that weight, the people that love you will gladly help you through it. I'm talking about the little annoyances of life that get us grumpy. However, I will be honest, I have a friend who is a psychologist and it is definitely fun to vent to her because she is an excellent listener :D.
What I recommend instead is to WRITE it out. Either on a computer or by hand. I know a lot of people advocate for the handwritten process because it slows you down a bit and has a more permanent sensation.
However, I go back and forth. Depending on what journal I have near me versus if I am on my laptop I may just type things out for awhile. I like that I can type quicker to keep up with my thoughts and I like that it is in a font rather than trying to interpret my handwritten scribbles later. I also really love deleting it afterward. If I am really just writing out my feelings to purge, then I do not want any permanency in that. I have no need to keep any negative thoughts around, so I might prefer typing and then use the delete button. So that part is up to you. But please do try writing out the thoughts in your head when you're feeling any strong emotion or complete lack thereof. On the flip side, writing stream of consciousness is a great way to get the ideas and motivation flowing again.
7. 5 levels of WHY - really check in with yourself
Now that we are on our way to fixing a bad mood and liking life more now, let's figure out why that happened in the first place. The real, REAL Why.
Let's go down 5 levels.
Are you feeling resistant to something, anxious about something, sad, angry, frustrated? Identify one emotion and then ask yourself WHY am I feeling that particular emotion. Then why again, and again, and again and one last time.
This may feel challenging at first but the clarity that comes at the end is so relieving and eye-opening.
If you're feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, is it because you feel anxious about the outcome or success of it? Is it because you don't actually want to do the thing that you are anxious about, is there a different approach you can take to accomplish this task? Are you resistant to something because it doesn't actually need to be done but you've convinced yourself that it does? Dig deep.
Next time you are angry with your boss or spouse, I ask that you go through 5 stages of WHY to really identify what is causing the negative emotion because when we understand something, we can change it.
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Ps. Social media is like keeping a photo album or documentary of your life, which I absolutely love, I also love how it is a true, social community to share stories, inspire and encourage. I particularly enjoy Instagram because it is like looking at life through rose-colored glasses. And yes, we need to acknowledge and face the harder realities of life as well, but we also need to flood our mind with positivity, hope, grace, joy, peace and share all the good vibes with each other! <3
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